When at the Strip Club: How Far is Too Far When You're in an Exclusive Relationship?

Let’s be honest, there’s definitely something exciting about the thought of going to the strip club. All those cheeks clapping, penises flying, chiselled abs and thighs to die for. And there’s always that essence of arousal in the air; all mixed in with the odour of sweat. You’ll probably end up leaving with your panties moist or you standing with three legs; unless you’ve already had the chance to deal with it. But how far is too far at the strip club when you’re in an exclusive relationship? What do you think? Well, I’ll let you know my thoughts.

There are two types of people when it comes to strip clubs; those there for a good time and those there for a long time. The good timer’s go just to eye up the talent, make it rain, have a laugh with their friends and probably have no intentions of taking it further than that. But the long timer’s live by the mantra ‘what happens in the club stays in the club’, so there’s no limits to the lengths they’ll go to. On a night out, they might kiss, touch and even have sex if the wind blows them that way; even if they’re in an exclusive relationship. Some people even go to strip clubs as a couple to get them going or just for fun; sometimes even to scout for a third party if they’re really liberal.

That’s all well and good if your partner has agreed to soft limits for that night or they generally don’t mind when it comes to those sort of things. The problem comes when people do what they want anyway even if they know their partner wouldn’t approve or they think that they won’t find out. That’s called cheating; lying and infidelity! If your partner can’t find out what happened at the strip club or would be upset if they knew, then in my opinion, you’ve taken it too far.

On a personal level, I don’t see nothing wrong with a playful tap on a stripper’s cheeks. But I also think it depends on the person’s intentions. If the intention is just banter, then it’s not really a big deal but if it’s to progress things further, then I see it as a problem. I see no issues with getting a dance but private parts should be kept private. So I don’t condone touching of any reproductive or productive organs, kissing or any penetrating. As a general rule, I wouldn’t do anything that I wouldn’t want my partner to do. But ultimately, it’s all dependent what you’re both comfortable with. Some don’t even like the strip club at all. As long as you’ve discussed it, then there shouldn’t be any nasty surprises. And if you know and respect your partner, there shouldn’t be any problems.